Wait.
What?!
I'm not saying I really wanted to spend 4-6 months in Shanghai, but it's the girl thing: we ask stupid questions regularly.
I can't go to China if I want to? I can't go to China if it would mean an incredible job offer and a big time resume-boost after the fact? He's telling me that I can't go to China under any circumstance?
His reasoning (because you know I demanded some logic): "I spend so much of my career in transit, I want you home as much as possible."
Again: I'm not saying I necessarily wanted to spend 4-6 months in China; a good 6000 miles from absolutely everyone and anything I hold dear and familiar. But I dislike this word called "No". I've disliked it since I was 5.
And you know?
I think if Taryn wants to go to China, Taryn should go to China. Insert emphatic head nod and stubbornly crossed arms here.
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ReplyDeleteHaha I asked my hubby if I could go to London to do an internship and he said no and I threw the same little girl, stamp my feet tantrum! I dont tell him he cant go to NTC!
ReplyDeleteyou guys remind me of my husband and myself. but now saddly my work will take away so i dont guess he can say no to that. but i say if you wanna go to an intership which is a once and a lifetime chance go!
ReplyDeleteI would gently and tactfully explain to him that you aren't property to keep at home. Many, many military marriages separate for various reasons not related to the service; sometimes it really is what's best. This is in no way an insult your husband. He honestly sounds like an amazing guy. But simply telling you no, without thinking it through, isn't fair to you. Yeah, it's nice to "have you home" but you need to kick-start a career that goes with you wherever you two are moved! Ahh, newly-wedded bliss- I feel ya!
ReplyDeleteWell... go to China when he's deployed... I actually know some women that do internships/work on cruise lines when their husbands deploy.
ReplyDeleteI just found out that companies like Tripple Canopy hired RNs... FOR A LOT OF MONEY to go to the middle east for 12 months, with a 2 week R&R in the middle. Ben found the idea to be a fabulous money making/ experience getting adventure for me.
ReplyDeleteDrewby needs to lighten up a little. :))
That's BS, you need to go to China. He can suck it up and play the milspouse for once. I totally feel you on this one, and I think I've even told DH that he'd never make it if we reversed roles. He just can't handle being away from me.
ReplyDeleteTypical! Whatever they ask for themselves, they won't grant you. Well, I understand no one necessariyl "wants" to deploy, but just because their job is limited in time at home doesn't mean you have to be around every time they are around. Serioulsy? It is not your job, but his, you get to choose your own. I say, you go to China if you want to and if that opportunity pops up. I mean really, it isn't as if he'd let you have a say in him reenlisting with the words "I want you home as much as you can be". That is ridiculous! He needs to get over himself and suck up that you both make choices for yourself as well!
ReplyDeleteWTF, I'm sorry, but I don't take my husband telling me what I can and cannot do, especially if it furthers my career. It's one thing to talk about it and come to the conclusion that you wont do it, but for him to tell you flat out no is ridiculous. You're not a child, you're an adult. That kind of crap really pisses me off.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what my reaction would have been had Lucas given me that reaction. I told him there is a possibility (and by possibility, I mean last ditch effort) that I may have to go to grad school out of state. To which he said "Ok, well, I am getting my Master's online, so it doesn't matter where we go". Then again, he would be coming with me, so not the same thing. But I think it's really unfair of him to say that to you. He chose a job that takes him far away, and you have to put up with it for the foreseeable future, it's not that much (in the grand scheme of things) for you to go away for 4-6 months, especially if he isn't home most of the time. He'll get to know what you deal with on a daily basis.
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