If given a second chance, would you choose to be involved with the military? Or would you press "re-do" and have your husband pick a different job?
I stand out on my own island with this, I'm sure. I tossed around the idea of commissioning to the Navy or Air Force under the Public Affairs speciality while I was still in college, but I eventually came to the conclusion that it was the PR/Media Relations/Marketing/Press Secretary umbrella that attracted me, not the other inevitable aspects of being in the military.
I wouldn't change the fact that Drew enlisted right out of high school, the MC is part of what brought us together. The Corps (recruiting duty in particular) has tested our relationship and made it stronger, and we've been provided with some unique opportunities to travel. However: I appreciate having control over my life and where it goes. I appreciate knowing that I can accept a job promotion, knowing that I can stay with whatever job it is for the next 5-10 years. I appreciate knowing I won't have to move: that I can buy a home and stay put if I so chose. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy travel: but I never had any plans to live abroad. Life threw me a curve ball if you will.
I love my husband.
But I want us both to have long, successful and fruitful careers. I worked too hard in college for me to roll over and submit. I'll support him until the cows come home: but I want a career for myself, too. These military installations 9 times out of 10, aren't anywhere near a metropolitan area. It makes it a little more difficult to start and keep a lasting career in PR/Marketing if the city you live near doesn't have a robust business environment.
I truly don't mind the TDYs, deployments and 30+ day training operations as much as I do the constant moving around. I'm one of those people that could be perfectly content staying in one spot. That, and I loved living in SoCal. *wink* And it isn't so much the travel that bugs me: it's the stress of picking my life up, finding a new job, and more importantly finding friends to spend time with on a Friday night ... every 3-4 years for the rest of his career. If me having a successful career wasn't so important and necessary, maybe I wouldn't mind so much. But I do.
If I were more flexible, I might be open to doing some more travel writing.
Bottom line? If it were up to me (and it's not) ... and it were possible to rewind and re-do .... I do believe I would want Drew to change his career path.