In November, my life changed for the better in a pretty big way. Finally, at long last: I made it into the Big Kid Leagues and nailed down my first salaried, full-time position. (WOO!)
But here's the problem: just because I've moved on doesn't mean any of my friends have. Don't get me wrong, I completely understand and remember the trials/tribulations of being a student. I also remember that when I wasn't studying, I was working so that I could pay for my bills. I didn't have a social life.
But for me? College was 3 years ago. I've transitioned out of being a student. And I was recently able to transition out of being a perpetual work-a-holic.When I asked a dear friend of mine if she and her fiance were available ... the answer was "No, we have school stuff." I also know that they're very likely unavailable at any point over the weekend too, because they work. Repeat until further notice.
And I stopped.
I blinked.
I wasn't remotely upset; because hey -- I've been there and I understood. But that still means my Friday nights are just as uneventful. Turns out that Meetup.com isn't nearly as popular in Maine as it is in other cities ... and I was very disappointed that the Yuppy type groups are bigtime inactive. Drew has a similar problem in the sense that all of his friends have small children. Yes, all but one. ONE. So they generally can't do things last minute, and sometimes? I don't want to play Polly Pocket. I want adult beverages and inappropriate comedy. On a Tuesday.
When did life change? We're both stuck smack in the middle of COLLEGE and MARRIED/FAMILY LIFE. Honestly, I know I need to meet some new friends. But the demographic at my office is 30+. And meetup.com is a bust.... and what I do for fun?? Is train my dog in agility. Super fun ... but the other women in her class are also much older than 30.
SIGH.
Pity party for a party of one, please.
Truth: I might be facing the same beast even if I moved back to SoCal ... that's what sucks.
If it makes you feel any better, my husband and I seem to be stuck in the same place... but we have the added "bonus" of the single guys that just want to get plastered on a Friday night. *sigh*
ReplyDeleteI completely get how you feel. Around the base it feels like it's 10x worse. It's like I can't find many friends who don't have kids to go out for a GNO, especially when our hubbies are deployed. Move to NC and then we can be childless and hang out :)
ReplyDeleteI totally understand! We graduated 2 years ago. We know lots of single people who have a different agenda. Lots of older people with kids. We are just kind of lost. We have just ended up making friends with people who are a bit older than us without kids because well...they are still pretty fun even though they aren't as up for everything as we are!
ReplyDeleteI have the solution! When you move back, just get a Disneyland pass! But I know the feeling. L is done with school and I have 2 classes left. He also got a "big boy" job while I am still stuck at Target. And, I swear I have marriage cooties. Still. But, if/when you do move back, I will have my laptop set up ready to go for a girl's night in :)
ReplyDeleteum, I totally feel you, girl!
ReplyDelete