I've noticed a trend among the MilSpouse world when it comes to moving to a new base when you have a choice. It seems the advice is always: do what's best for your husband's career.
Insert crickets chirping here.
His career? What about my career?
And let's just hypothetically say that I was a stay at home Mom and geography didn't neceessarily play much of a role in where we ended up, aren't I allowed to have an opinion and say that I just flat out don't want to live in Japan? Or the desert? Or anywhere on the west coast??
MilSpouses, the government is going to move us all over the globe without giving a frog's fat behind about how we end up finding jobs in the middle of the desert. If we have a choice? I think we damn well have a right to put our two cents in; because if and when he deploys or goes out for long training operations ... we're still stuck there. Don't get me wrong, if it would be a major career advancement opportunity, I'd suck it up go without any protest and make the best out of a lses than desireable situation.
But I think we've earned the right to have an opinion.
I think we've earned the right to have a say.
And I definitely think we've earned the right to say: "you know what? I matter, too. Money and upward career movement isn't everything."